tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21546524590880038932024-03-13T20:04:31.557-07:00Meena Maami? Meenu Mommy!Mommy of a momma's boy! (amma meenu)Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-10470884995578503092017-10-28T01:54:00.000-07:002017-10-28T01:59:07.055-07:00Happy fifth<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear Mahu,<br />
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You are the dearest of all. And today would be the last day, I can say you are a four year old. This year has been so wonderful, getting to know you better and to love you more. I don't even deserve your love, so abundant and expressive. The way you introduce me to everybody, makes me feel like a celebrity. </div>
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I want to hold you a lot, before your speech becomes clearer, before your baby voice matures and before you want to break away. My dear, along with that, I hope we will continue to run, swim, play, sing and dance, cook, read, travel, experiment, chat our time away and make a whole bunch of memories. </div>
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I hope I am able to keep up with your grit, perseverance, interest, creativity and focus. Your clever and witty answers will always be cherished. Your patience and skill to teach. I have so much to learn from you. Your curiosity, observations and wonder are so wonderful. I am not at all worried about what you will do in your life and hope to have your company as much as possible. Dear son, whatever happens, never ever panic. There are always better things to worry. You just continue to be yourself, keeping yourself physically safe, fit and responsible. I hope you don't get fixated too much with comforts. We are yet to do things in a way that we are flexible enough to take on life, however tough situations become. You must travel a lot, in your own company, soaking up the place's air and vibes. Know the history, and appreciate whatever life offers in the moment. Always, live in the moment like you do right now.</div>
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My dear, from babydom to toddlerhood to a preschooler, you are growing up way too soon and I am not getting enough of you. Please don't grow up so fast.</div>
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And as I always say, always remember that I love you a lot, please. I really hope I am of some use to you.</div>
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Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-91461299647414563092013-07-11T08:13:00.002-07:002013-07-11T08:13:51.103-07:00Ganesh Interview - Part II<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Q. What do you want to be when you grow up?<br />A. Scary goose (the skeleton frame), Chimpanzee<br />
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Q. What brings you most happiness?<br />
A. Scary goose<br />
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Q. What are you scared of?<br />
A. I am not scare of anything<br />
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Q. What is the funniest word?<br />
A. Sussu, Potty, Bum<br />
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Q. What is the hardest thing to do?<br />
A. Cut plastic<br />
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Q. Easiest thing?<br />
A. Playing<br />
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Q. What makes you mad?<br />
A. Veer, Saxophone<br />
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Q. What would you do when you have a lot of money?<br />
A. Buy matchboxes, But an i-phone with temple run and angry birds<br />
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Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-35818284758156990472013-06-21T02:04:00.001-07:002013-06-21T02:05:01.323-07:00Interview part one - Ganesh<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
This is inspired from Amber from <a href="http://crappypictures.com/interview-your-kids/">Crappy pictures</a><br />
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Ganesh Interview:<br />
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What do you think I dream of?<br />
You go up up up in the sky<br />
Then go down down and down<br />
Me: Where down?<br />
Him: Just down<br />
Then go left and then right<br />
Me: where in the sky or in the down?<br />
Him: left and right means the sides. Left side means left hand side and right side means right hand side (with respective hand actions)<br />
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What do you think which dress I like?<br />
Golden<br />
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What do you think I do after you sleep?<br />
You go for a walk, watch TV and sit on the computer. (He nailed this one :))<br />
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What do you think I do with my friends?<br />
You play.<br />
What do I play with them?<br />
Hide and seek.<br />
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Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-85639089607359748242013-06-21T00:20:00.000-07:002013-06-21T00:20:00.870-07:00Introducing Mahesh<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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He does all the stunts like Ganesh and started sitting at seven months . He knocks at the neighbor's door as well. :)<br />
My child, hope the fun and laughter never ends here and you grow up well and healthy. Not so soon though.<br />
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Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-60972082628707792222012-05-03T04:25:00.001-07:002012-05-03T04:25:31.247-07:00Just a quote<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I like being a mother, but hate being pregnant. </div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-41630693914844051972012-02-22T03:24:00.000-08:002012-02-22T03:24:40.916-08:00A Request<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">My father has been working on getting a permanent CBSE affiliation of Sri Sankara School in Kalady, Ernakulam Distt., Kerala for almost four years. The school was setup to provide quality education at minimal fees from the underprivileged students. The permanent affiliation is renewed once in three years, based on the audits conducted by CBSE on its specified standards.<br />
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During the initial settling years, he worked on standardising on qualification and quality and further on the salaries of the teachers. Gradually he moved onto standardising the infrastructure in terms of CBSE specifications (Classrooms, Auditorium, furniture, Labs, Staff etc.). After multiple audits, the affilliation was granted. As the school is run by the Mutt, there are very tight budgetary constraints. The school requires funds for books in the library, sports equipments and playground equipments for the primary school.<br />
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Request you all to donate generously for this cause. My father will get an Sec 80G exemption certificate as well. When the money is transferred, kindly mark the details to my father at ksvenkat46@yahoo.co.in. The account details are:<br />
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Sri Sankara Educational Trust<br />
Union Bank of India, Kalady Branch<br />
SB A/C No. 338602010018242<br />
IFSC Code: UBIN0533866<br />
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Me: I thought I will sing and he will play mridangam. ;)<br />
Shiv: What? May be I should join the mridangam class and start teaching him.<br />
Me: PLEASE. I don't think its a nice idea. People coming up with age criteria for starting, there must be some sense in it. <br />
Shiv: Hmm<br />
Me: Why don't you join voilin class and we can all perform together. JUST IMAGINE (with the dream-come-true-sparkle-in-the-eyes tone)<br />
Shiv (Embarrased with the thought itself): Leave me alone for sometime.</div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-43202840457629596492012-01-11T02:07:00.000-08:002012-01-11T05:18:19.690-08:00Art of conversations<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">As Ganesh is growing up, it is a pleasure talking to the little person that he is. The clarity in his priorities and interests makes very interesting conversations with him.<br />
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He has a lot of interest in percussion instruments and enjoys watching different videos of concerts on the internet. Even in live performances, he focuses more on percussionists. I asked him what he likes most. Mridangam, Chendai, Drums, Tabla or Ghatam. <br />
Ganesh: "Thavil dhaan aettom pidikkum" (I like Thavil the most)<br />
Me: :)<br />
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5:30 am. Milk time. He generally gets milk at room temparature and continues to sleep after that. One day, he had mild cough and had bouts of cough in the middle of the night too. That morning, I informed him that he will get warm milk. Fellow doesnt like the idea and tries to negotiate. In the process, he loses his sleep and further negotiates not wanting to have the warm milk. After being left with no choice, he had to have it and immediately after that, he has a bout of cough. <br />
Ganesh: "Paaru amma. Chood-a tinnuttum koraikkardu" (See amma. Even after eating it warm, I am coughing and repeats this statement for a couple of more times)<br />
I had no other choice than to hold him tightly and kiss him on his forehead.<br />
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During one of the morning walks, he observes a person going on motorcycle and asks, "Shivakumar-te bike illaya?" (Why doesn't Shivakumar have a bike?). I replied," He had one, but somebody stole it." <br />
He gets angry and throws expletives,"We should hit and fix him. We should hand him over to the police. We should leave him with the ducks." <br />
(We take time to see what the ducks do at Manipal Hospital garden area during every visit there. So whenever he throws tantrums, I say, "I will leave you with the ducks and you eat what they eat.")<br />
As much as I laughed at it, I thought to myself, if I am using right words with him when it is difficult to deal with him :(.</div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-62678910109510326622012-01-02T22:07:00.000-08:002012-01-02T22:07:17.378-08:00Happy New Year<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">On the onset of 2010, a dear friend of mine wished me with HNY. A tubelight that I am, just didn't get it. I had to google it and found another full form and as usual thought "Isko kya ho gaya!!!".<br />
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And after I realised that it was the new year wish, thought, "Aisa mere saath hi kyu hota hai?"<br />
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Nonetheless folks! Have a good time. Masst raho khush raho.</div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-38900599690589699152011-12-08T03:02:00.000-08:002011-12-08T03:02:54.315-08:00Size does matter<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">All of three, Ganesh feels and behaves like the biggest of all. There is a lot of questioning that has started these days, right from what happens if we keep a blanket on burning stove to if a smallest of mouse can bite. I too don't miss a chance to ask questions which will be answered in my favour. <br />
Me: Is Ganesh big or small?<br />
Ganesh: BIG<br />
Me: Is Ganesh's tummy big or small?<br />
Ganesh: BIG<br />
Me: Is appa big or small?<br />
Ganesh: small<br />
Me: Is amma big or small?<br />
Ganesh: small<br />
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Me: Is amma's tummy big or small?<br />
Ganesh: small <br />
Me (looking at Shiv): Evil grins :D :D :D</div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-59471602925905757382011-08-04T02:18:00.000-07:002011-08-04T02:18:32.489-07:00Maar hi daaloge<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div closure_uid_8s48dw="136">I do whatever it takes to reach home by 6:15 pm. Rain or not. The moment I open the door, Ganesh comes running, jumps on me and hugs. One rainy evening by the time I reached home, I was completely drenched and had to forego my usual treat. So I informed him that I am completely drenched and cannot carry or hug him until I change. He touches me, runs inside and gets a towel. <br />
"Inda amma, todachuko. Sheriaayudum." (Take this amma, wipe yourself. You will be ok)</div><div closure_uid_8s48dw="135">Shiv, generally feels that the mother-son love as TOO MUCH. I just could not wait to narrate this story to see his reaction (that "maar hi daaloge" expression), topped with the dialogue, "Learn something from your son." ;)</div><div closure_uid_8s48dw="116"><br />
Ganesh's favorite colour is Orange. Breakfast time. He is given dosa with greens, which he was not enjoying too much which was evident from the speed of consumption. I started eating with Orange color leftover chutney and wooed him to eat with that. The entire content was transferred to his plate. He runs to the kitchen and opens the fridge. Shiv asks, "Ganesh, fridge ae ennattukku thorandel ?"(why have you opened the fridge)<br />
Ganesh, "Amma ku Orange chutney podanam" (serve the orange colour chutney to amma too)</div><div closure_uid_8s48dw="117">I looked at husband immediately, not to miss his expression. :D</div><div closure_uid_8s48dw="117"><br />
</div><div closure_uid_8s48dw="118">These gestures from the child will be cherished forever. I don't think I even deserve them. But I do deserve to see Shiv's funny expressions.</div></div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-55208924776178241272011-04-11T02:04:00.000-07:002011-04-11T02:04:24.731-07:00Is it too early?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
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It is never, when it comes to educate the child about his own protection from the predators. A few personal experiences:<br />
1. A friend's uncle, who was supposedly funny and all the elders liked him for his sense of humor. During adolescence, he comes and touches the chest, saying that "oh, the girl is growing up." I hated it. I did not know what to do. Just ran home and shut myself. I tried to inform my mother, she did not understand and it never got conveyed.<br />
2. A pooja being arranged at home. Father asked me to join him to the temple to get the required things. The priest staring me and stroked the bum. And this was in a split second time when father was walking ahead of me and the priest behind me. I did not know what to do. I started walking along father.<br />
3. Countless incidents of people touching on the streets.<br />
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It took a while to understand that I wasn't wrong in any of the above incidents and I have to speak up. Well, I was a teenager when I understood and it was learning the hard way. I had my own share of guilt, fear, fury and everything but I am glad that I dealt with all of it pretty well and am sane today. <br />
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It is a myth that boys are not eyed on. I know of a friend who too shared his tryst with one who was an older lady. I got to see a program on re-enacted crimes relayed every single day in a channel in Singapore which was produced by the police department. Coincidentally the first episode I got to see was about a paedophile targetting boys, starting friendship just by talking, then getting smaller gifts then gradually bigger and expensive toys. He then took the child to the zoo as a leisure trip. The mother too is wonderstruck in this case seeing the gifts and the friendship. Then the very next day, after the swimming classes, this man takes the child to the bathroom, removes the clothes and has a photo shoot. The child is also confused here. The mother digs in for information and files a police complaint. I wasn't even a mother then. I could relate to every single emotion of sadness, shame, disgust, anger and frustration. I promised myself that if I ever have child(ren), they will be aware of what needs to be done. From saying a firm no to shout or run for help and inform us.<br />
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Husband and I too believe very strongly believe that we cannot even predict who can turn out to be predator. They would be one among us, relatives, friends, anybody. Its a very thin line, and we cannot take any chances for the child to learn the hard way. They just don't deserve it.<br />
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We generally go by this rule that until five years, the child must be accompanied by people who are responsible and with whom the child is comfortable with. Having said that, as a mother, all I wished for Ganesh was that he should not be too 'friendly'. I have very elated when he cried uncontrollably at a friend's home, at three months. Any amount of nursing, he continued to cry. The moment we got out, he was fine. His sensitivity to new people is still there and I am happy to say the least, that it keeps him safe. At two and half years, he is not comfortable bare body in front of people, he is not happy being only in shorts too. People carrying him or holding him is not his comfort zone.<br />
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Having said that, he will start school in June and will not be home for four hours per day. We have already started telling him that if he does not like anybody touching, holding or carrying him, he should say that he does not like it. He should not allow anybody to touch his penis or bum, except for all of us at home, that is parents, both set of grandparents and paternal or maternal sisters. <br />
I also know of people who say that the child loses innocence when she/he is told about all of it. I have seen kids who stand up for themselves and say a firm "NO, don't kiss me. I don't like it". I find them equally innocent and cute. Need I say safe too?</div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-23285211384870534952011-03-15T02:51:00.000-07:002011-03-15T02:51:48.907-07:00Bed-time Stories<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><i>"He wouldn't even settle sleeping next to me. He has to sleep on me."</i> <br />
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The sleep-training is being going on for a few months now at our place, but Ganesh still does not sleep through the night. I have partially weaned him off from his swing of saree. We had to swing him for thirty to forty minutes every time to make him sleep, right from the time he was born. This itself I consider as a big achievement, for the struggles, crying and negotiations we had to go through to get him to bed.<br />
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He still has his milk in bottle at around 3 am and another one at around 6 am and sleeps till 7:15 am which too has reduced from three to two. I know I am not the only one hre going through this, just felt good reading <a href="http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070900.asp">this article.</a></div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-65890241218329614122011-03-04T02:53:00.000-08:002011-03-04T04:08:04.543-08:00Of sharing and being nice<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">If you ask Ganesh to share what he is eating, you will get, after much <strike>pleading</strike> persuation that is, something in your hand, which you will not be able to see. And if you put that in mouth, you will not get the taste of it either.<br />
If a baby or child, looks at his plate, irrespective of he eating or not, otherwise a nice, calm and soft Ganesh turns into a hitting monster. In a park, if I touch another child, Ganesh screams, DDDDDAAAAEEEEEEE anna (or akka, whosoever his mother shows a temporary interest). He even went and hit a child yesterday. (Ofcourse he had to go through the amma-not-talking-to-you discplining strategy and he saying sorry to the child. Amma would have ignored it, if all this happened in her absence and the other hitting back Ganesh or they dealing all of it with each other)<br />
We had been to Bannerghatta National Park last week. Shiv plucked some fresh tamarind from the trees and I just tried if the wild squirrels eat that. They came near, took that and started eating. It was such a cute sight, to say the least. Ganesh had not approved for it and hence had a lying-on-floor-crying tantrum. One lollypop as a bribe and he becomes fine. He kept on asking for the tamarind, for some time though.<br />
<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhgeBEOcJjLsRRGSLKiuCBfAZmtFJxcpKnIWpDnQ1pKyUNpi9JsrkZ6WJpzVE8G5MNZ-8AvK1L4umh71tnP6q9E3FVpx0qQ_9go9OCgGVv-PIOk3iL_LgF4G3nbwtJi1GieXjTctHYBA6g/s1600/IMG_8307.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213" l6="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhgeBEOcJjLsRRGSLKiuCBfAZmtFJxcpKnIWpDnQ1pKyUNpi9JsrkZ6WJpzVE8G5MNZ-8AvK1L4umh71tnP6q9E3FVpx0qQ_9go9OCgGVv-PIOk3iL_LgF4G3nbwtJi1GieXjTctHYBA6g/s320/IMG_8307.jpg" width="320" /></a>One of our neighbors has a dalmatian called Spotty, with whom we are friends. Spotty doesn't generally allow people to enter his territory, but from the day we have seen and befriended him, he has not only allowed us to enter his zone, but also has been extremely gentle with Ganesh. Ganesh then being just one year old and not so steady, Spotty used to be very careful even while shaking off Ganesh from his body when Ganesh would hug him, bite him, pull one of his feet or pull his tail. He would not sit anywhere anytime when Ganesh was around, to avoid Ganesh sitting on him. People around would ask me to be careful with the dog around the child, whereas I used to be worried about the dog. That was such a perfect picture. Until recently, when Ganesh had just picked up a stick (as usual) from the garden there. Spotty, playfully snatched it from the other end and ran away. Ganesh, being him, did not like it and had a lying-on-floor-crying tantrum. I could not help laughing loudly, much to Ganesh's irritation. Spotty too, I am so sure was laughing who was standing next to me and kind of challenging Ganesh to take the stick back.</div></div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-53320634398879651092011-02-24T00:36:00.000-08:002011-02-24T00:59:35.820-08:00A post on embarrassments<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><a href="http://mamasaysso.blogspot.com/2011/02/mind-your-own-boobser-business.html">Rohini's post</a> inspired me to write about my perspective on extended breastfeeding. While the external suggestions are perinneal, they do really get on to one's head especially when it is told continuously and to individuals who are capable of making choices and know what works best for them and their children.<br />
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I exclusively breastfed my son until he was five months. My mother and mother-in-law tried to give him external food when he was three months old and there was a persistent effort on that to my irritation. Especially when it was tried in my absence. <br />
My mother would say, "Your milk is like water, how would that be sufficient."<br />
Me: As long as he seems to be ok, I will continue. <br />
This was the time when I was engorged and had fountains of milk flowing out. Yes, I knew that the boy is not lacking on its supply and never doubted even once.<br />
Mother-in-law: "How will his stomach grow without external solids"<br />
Me (looking at my tummy and thinking): I wish atleast he has a flat tummy for a longer time.<br />
I had two people who were with me to deal with constantly. <br />
My final weapon dialogue to both of them. "Let me also experience the child rearing thing."<br />
I think because of that, dealing with external world became quite easy. Smile and ignore. Thank you very much.<br />
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I was all set to nurse Ganesh as long as he wanted and to my dismay, he stopped it gradually on his own when he turned one. Now he doesn't even remember he being on boobs. I even tried to force nurse him. He had four teeth above and four below in the front and he knew exactly how to deal with me. Ouch. I stopped. I had to.<br />
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The point people bring up about the embarrassment factor, I would anyday vote for extended nursing because the child is asking for it when hungry or for comfort. I am sure that will stop when the supply stops or when they no longer feel the need for it. I used to call Ganesh "Barbie Doll" among one of the so-many so-many names, when he was say, 14-15 months. One year later, I don't know how and why he associates this term with boobs, pointing at them and saying in as-a-matter-of-factly manner, "Barbie doll". Fortunately or unfortunately, also with the ladies he is comfortable with. The children will never fail to embarrass you, I would have been happier if he continued to ask for nursing rather than seeing such days, especially in front of people, that too when he has the word "chest" in his vocabulary.</div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-27105266613776108552011-02-07T01:39:00.001-08:002011-02-07T01:39:56.022-08:00Of guilt trips!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">I leave home brutally quiet each morning and listen Ganesh calling "Amma" followed with a wail and his grandparents telling him that she has gone to office. He says crying, "Amma office ponam". :(<br />
We go out each morning, have our time together, basically hanging out checking the dirty streams of water that flows throughout Bangalore. His current obsession, he only knows why. We check one near the Golf view campus, followed with some hanging, swinging, sliding session in the park. We also go and 'touch' the BIIG water tank near the park. He doesnt want to come home after that, coz he knows that all we will do is take bath, have breakfast and I will head to office. I would tell him about office thingy and all I get is a more clinging child. Very recently, I even said a firm bye and got out as the experts suggest, but he followed me not just wailing and begging not to leave, but I left. FIL told he cried continuously for forty minutes. After that once again hide-and-seek.<br />
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I am so embarrassed that I forgot the husband's birthday. I really thought its on Tuesday but it happened to be on Monday. He gets a call at 12:30 am and there I was cursing that his friends have no time-sense whatsoever and went on saying all are same. Then morning showers of calls, my family, cousins everybody. I checkout the calendar and you-know-what-expression.</div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-25028589901761642792011-01-12T05:16:00.000-08:002011-01-12T05:17:39.092-08:00Craziness<em>I cannot take this anymore </em><br />
<em>I'm saying everything I've said before </em><br />
<em>All these words they make no sense </em><br />
<em>I find bliss in ignorance </em><br />
<em>Less I hear the less you'll say </em><br />
<em>But you'll find that out anyway </em><br />
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<em>Just like before... </em><br />
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<em>Everything you say to me </em><br />
<em>Takes me one step closer to the edge </em><br />
<em>And I'm about to break </em><br />
<em>I need a little room to breathe </em><br />
<em>Cause I'm one step closer to the edge </em><br />
<em>And I'm about to break </em><br />
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<em>I find the answers aren't so clear </em><br />
<em>Wish I could find a way to disappear </em><br />
<em>All these thoughts they make no sense </em><br />
<em>I find bliss in ignorance </em><br />
<em>Nothing seems to go away </em><br />
<em>Over and over again </em><br />
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</em><br />
<em>Everything you say to me </em><br />
<em>Takes me one step closer to the edge </em><br />
<em>And I'm about to break </em><br />
<em>I need a little room to breathe </em><br />
<em>Cause I'm one step closer to the edge </em><br />
<em>And I'm about to break </em><br />
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<em>Shut up when I'm talking to you </em><br />
<em>Shut up, shut up, shut up </em><br />
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<em>I’m about to break! </em><br />
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~Linkin Park<br />
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I used to think that these heavy metal rock bands are plain crazy. And those who could appreciate rock are serious nut cases requiring counselling. But now I am hooked. I find it spiritual.Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-62554678104278321282010-12-02T21:48:00.000-08:002010-12-02T21:48:05.179-08:00Awestruck<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Shiv has started going to office early and by that time Ganesh and I also would have finished the morning rituals and would be ready to step out. We go to a nearby ground where Shiv drops us on his way. Ganesh would claim that he wants to go to ground, but by the time we need to get out, he will start saying "Appa, come. Come to gound with me. Office na na." But we have to get out and wave bye, after which the boy will keep on asking that we should go to appa's office. I tried to explain him that appa and amma must go to office to work and that is how we make money. We need money to buy food, water, tickets to Wonderla, cubbon park, train, biscuits, chocolates, bun, joos... EVERYTHING. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Me: Do you want them or not?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Ganesh: Venda (Don't want)</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Me: Do you want cubbon park on Saturday Sunday or not?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Ganesh: Venda</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Me: "It will be boring"</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Ganesh: Boye venam (wants bore)</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">:(</span></div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-74765030494204847762010-11-30T01:43:00.000-08:002010-11-30T01:43:53.684-08:00Drawing SpiritsThere was this "Drawing Competition" organized for the entire neighborhood children marking the end of Karnataka Rajyotsava celebrations. The communication to us was somehow missed but as Ganesh and I are mostly out in the neighborhood during mornings and we saw the event happening from the terrace. We came home immediately got ready and went there, but we were among the last ones to reach. Most of the children had left by then, but a few children who were there happily shared their crayons and waited for Ganesh to finish his random lines with white crayons on white paper! I tried to change the color of the crayon but he changed it back to white! One of the kids helped him making flower and such, and this activity kept him engaged for five minutes. This according to me was not even qualifying for a "competition" but it was happily submitted as an entry and it was pasted in the venue among the other entries of 2-5 years category. <br />
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There was the felicitation ceremony with some cultural programs in the evening, in which all the children had to participate. The first category being 2-5 years, then 6-10 years and 11-15 years. All the children were being called by names. Ganesh also promptly ran to the stage, seeing the proceedings. He went to collect the gift before his name was called and held himself back when the child whose turn it was, collected hers, backing himself off when his name was called. I had to ask him to go and collect. The radiant happiness in his face while collecting and shaking hands with the gentlemen on stage would have glown one dark room! As the lady who was announcing correctly said, "Judging the paintings was just a formality. It was the participation which was important. Please give a loud round of applause to all the children. We are so lucky to have them."Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-83849005149926821732010-11-18T01:36:00.000-08:002010-11-18T01:36:50.100-08:00What I love about being with youThe way you express your love. Pinching both my cheeks, coming close and kissing. <br />
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"Amma mele taachi" Want to lay down on top of me, when unable to go back to sleep in the middle of the night. The feel of your eyelashes on my neck during that time.<br />
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Calling amma for every excitement of yours. Be it spotting the "Big Dish" (DTH Service dishes on rooftops) or a "paaida" (spider) or "Sooo many pijins" or "ejjauth fan" (Exhaust fan) for the zillionth time.<br />
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Calling amma for the minutest of distress. Falling down, being hit or anybody scolding or for that matter amma scolding you.<br />
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Calling me "Meenu". You know that I will not stop you from calling me by name. You will look at your father after calling me that with a smile, for his disapproval.<br />
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Not allowing anybody to even look at you, when I am present. Reporting every instance of somebody looking at you, talking to you or trying to carry you, be it your grandparents, father or anybody. Ensuring that only I lift you when I am around.<br />
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You start walking when I tell that my arm is aching carrying you. I will carry you as much as I can, coz you will grow way too soon than I am ready for. You stop crying when I say I will also cry. Well, I know thats mean, but nothing really works sometimes.<br />
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Your dramas, tantrums, crocodile tears, running to sofa to lay down and cry. You throwing more fits on my suggestion of crying on the bed like heroines. <br />
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Your jumps and hops. You coming running to me in the evening on my return to home from work. <br />
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You demanding rather ordering what you want. Amma "dosa na na", "idli na na", "chappati na na", "upma na na", "pongal na na", "mammam na na", "adai na na", "Ing na na"... "maggi venam", "chocolate venam", "joos venam"<br />
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You using words tactically and innocently for your benefit. Making everybody laugh and laughing yourself.<br />
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I love you being a thoughtful and mature person. You know when to joke and limit it to fun only. Thats your character of maintaining respect and love with everybody. You remembering and revising everybody's name (huge extended family and lot of our friends and their children). Ensuring to call them like that when we meet. No wonder everybody is so fond of you.Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-76242881759086382022010-10-15T05:48:00.000-07:002010-10-15T05:48:13.278-07:00Wink and babydom is gone<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQElyzxQrbpHRKKWYnyO6GmBU1HD3gbHUkaWP08etYuFL-_YbDmJ8fY8Y7Rz56vRR_D36ci18fP1OnQRrU_LJEgKrcDfK5c73uBQXLM-r0TD73I3aYxtWb6rads_59p8HaWuNmeC_Qn90/s1600/5+day+old.bmp" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQElyzxQrbpHRKKWYnyO6GmBU1HD3gbHUkaWP08etYuFL-_YbDmJ8fY8Y7Rz56vRR_D36ci18fP1OnQRrU_LJEgKrcDfK5c73uBQXLM-r0TD73I3aYxtWb6rads_59p8HaWuNmeC_Qn90/s200/5+day+old.bmp" width="150" /></a>You are now 25 months old, feels like only last moment gone that you were given onto my hand, when you came out of me. How can I forget the tender voice of you crying, the wetness and the creamy layer on you then. (the tantrums and puppy shrieks of yours remind me of that even more). A tiny human being who apparently thought that he is a part of the mother and now so clear about his own self.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; text-align: left;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"> </div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_fwGmYCUGSLg/SU9l6i8cirI/AAAAAAAAA40/GzYpXbo87yw/s1600/DSC05079.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="150" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_fwGmYCUGSLg/SU9l6i8cirI/AAAAAAAAA40/GzYpXbo87yw/s200/DSC05079.JPG" width="200" /></a>Time flew by as I saw you achieving all your milestones either on time or way ahead of it, attempting for the next almost immediately of achieving one. Smiling at 40 days, turning over at 80 days, rolling then onwards, <a href="http://iyer-ramya.blogspot.com/2009/04/post-50-yay-o.html">crawling on your back and not on tummy at 4 months</a> :) (yes, only you can do such things), sitting down at 5 and half months, crawling on knees at 7 months, holding and standing at 9 months, walking without help at 10 months. And now full-fledged talking with correct grammar at 25 months. Oh! jumping and hopping. Even correcting us when we say something wrong.</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"> </div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_fwGmYCUGSLg/SQ8BDG74GxI/AAAAAAAAAbc/pOTbBAyiSMo/s1600/DSC04535.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; cssfloat: right; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="150" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_fwGmYCUGSLg/SQ8BDG74GxI/AAAAAAAAAbc/pOTbBAyiSMo/s200/DSC04535.JPG" width="200" /></a>The depiction of "Mary had a little lamb" rhyme in this particular video has a real girl and a sheep (which looks like a cow) with a drawn up backdrop of some landscape. </div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Cow</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Shiv: Na Ganesh, that's a lamb, baby sheep. It says Ba-Ae-Ae-Ae</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Na Na. No Ba-Ae-Ae. It says Moooooooooooo.</div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Shiv: Na na. It is a lamb. Mary had a little lamb.</div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Appa na na. That's a cow. Moooooo Mooooo</div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Shiv: na na. Thats a lamb</div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: COW</div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_fwGmYCUGSLg/SeAAs5uqltI/AAAAAAAABaw/1RtwprUAhdk/s1600/DSC05594.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="150" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_fwGmYCUGSLg/SeAAs5uqltI/AAAAAAAABaw/1RtwprUAhdk/s200/DSC05594.JPG" width="200" /></a></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Shiv: :|</div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">I love it when you hold yourself on me to the closest level possible and ask "amma baa", for me to set you in a way that the minute space left out is also gone, our rolling and tickling games. I am so proud of you being imaginative and happy to clean the mess you make by making Dosas on the floor with the banana shake or curds which is supposed to go to your tummy.</div></div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><span id="goog_801719938"></span><span id="goog_801719939"></span><span id="goog_1404259649"></span><span id="goog_1404259650"></span>Me: Ganesh, what is your name? </div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAPImSKSB06RgOzH6Gz8JOEevYEJach5DVEqbO02iHJVJ7bYBkBcfDAugtEl58gApm1XGb_b1oTz-3ftnzVCK7Mbw-IkFfkSu4rfAafXdWDQo0dYp8xKVU2uOaPKyZd5KFkzEJAEe3fcI/s1600/DSC06192.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; cssfloat: right; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAPImSKSB06RgOzH6Gz8JOEevYEJach5DVEqbO02iHJVJ7bYBkBcfDAugtEl58gApm1XGb_b1oTz-3ftnzVCK7Mbw-IkFfkSu4rfAafXdWDQo0dYp8xKVU2uOaPKyZd5KFkzEJAEe3fcI/s200/DSC06192.JPG" width="200" /></a>You: Ganesh</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Me (blown up with pride): How are you?</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Ganesh</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Me: How do you do? </div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Ganesh</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Me: :|</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqpYzbu-LDrVCttKI3RkhsCMy8GYqyu34-Vd3yCxQLiobg6bH-o1ucjhbZl1hN94oMTpGfaNw8ycIIyaiQPj0l3EIf6JwI1Mq2kLjU7bGoLAVrczv0Qcqi4umsro14bXvfo9kRYdKL-zU/s1600/4.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqpYzbu-LDrVCttKI3RkhsCMy8GYqyu34-Vd3yCxQLiobg6bH-o1ucjhbZl1hN94oMTpGfaNw8ycIIyaiQPj0l3EIf6JwI1Mq2kLjU7bGoLAVrczv0Qcqi4umsro14bXvfo9kRYdKL-zU/s200/4.jpg" width="200" /></a> <br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><span id="goog_847851456"></span><span id="goog_847851457"></span>You preferring girls over boys (yes!) and not only giving them well-deserved special attention but also your snacks! I am always on cloud nine seeing your gentleman-ish approach towards them. What handshake(s), saying Hi with a wave and asking them to join you to play! </div></div> <br />
<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMz9Np9Cwlgra4L64pCjkf-0ZzoXuSzyv13F5_A0iJeWu3fhjFQtc0-12wolTGVN9Rz8sbDVhubrf7oQvdOwtlN2GvVBOQWYbjwEndzr1BEDaCMb1b0zP_y8I7KCfnusj8aWDnnwednAM/s1600/natak.bmp" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; cssfloat: right; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMz9Np9Cwlgra4L64pCjkf-0ZzoXuSzyv13F5_A0iJeWu3fhjFQtc0-12wolTGVN9Rz8sbDVhubrf7oQvdOwtlN2GvVBOQWYbjwEndzr1BEDaCMb1b0zP_y8I7KCfnusj8aWDnnwednAM/s200/natak.bmp" width="200" /></a>You have been an entertainer throughout, which I knew from the moment you made the funny squeaking sounds while latching on to have milk on your day-one itself. Later on our storytelling,<a href="http://iyer-ramya.blogspot.com/2009/08/chance-pe-dance.html"> complaining and pulling each others legs</a>, all in the pretext of talking to you. Oh! you have been a patient listener. Your fake smiles for posing for camera. </div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"> </div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIB_Jq9luGPVi7cItmwU5udLsyYVliXcmInyRBwTWBHIhVzgQEIq8hRCvAnP9GoykU1SteWr3m8KUGLyxb_AJrYT5IKBIjr6vP8CewCwKAmzQbFz-AB4nM2HvMPwFLTUNMwO6XrsRqfNY/s1600/Ganesh_Ankit_budday1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: left; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIB_Jq9luGPVi7cItmwU5udLsyYVliXcmInyRBwTWBHIhVzgQEIq8hRCvAnP9GoykU1SteWr3m8KUGLyxb_AJrYT5IKBIjr6vP8CewCwKAmzQbFz-AB4nM2HvMPwFLTUNMwO6XrsRqfNY/s200/Ganesh_Ankit_budday1.jpg" width="150" /></a>I must say, all the older girls in the family are really impressed with you already and are waiting for you to grow up to have more fun conversations with you. :)</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Now that you will be a school boy in a few months' time, I just cannot comprehend the lightning speed reality. </div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
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<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTVz1GYi1EaX83Y2APElXV6CXoz5EZuOUZ0G1Zit0c2MdrFoB5hsCKgctxyBzjOLzLdq7lFNEkOzZoi_6Y8h0qnCdKEvS5_INshf6ZF1ziUlYsgvsTqwx_uEXVvdSAtRqhi30uEV0i5bw/s1600/IMG_8333.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; cssfloat: right; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTVz1GYi1EaX83Y2APElXV6CXoz5EZuOUZ0G1Zit0c2MdrFoB5hsCKgctxyBzjOLzLdq7lFNEkOzZoi_6Y8h0qnCdKEvS5_INshf6ZF1ziUlYsgvsTqwx_uEXVvdSAtRqhi30uEV0i5bw/s200/IMG_8333.jpg" width="133" /></a><i>Advances in self-care skills come fast and furious during the preschool years. Most kids have mastered the basics of self-care - dressing, washing their hands, feeding themselves, and going to the bathroom (but not necessarily wiping!) - by their fourth birthday. As the months and years roll by, your child will get better and better at meeting her own needs. You'll blink, a few years will go by, and she'll be able to tie her shoes and shower or bathe by herself. Then it's just a matter of time until she can do laundry and cook dinner, not to mention drive herself to soccer practice. By then you'll be wishing she'd let you baby her once in a while, but her refusal to give up her autonomy will be a testament to your success in teaching her to care for herself</i>.</div></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">~ courtesy <a href="http://www.babycenter.com/0_developmental-milestone-self-care_63974.bc?page=2">babycenter </a></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><span id="goog_85125070"></span><span id="goog_85125071"></span></div> <br />
<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxTe6btxmIIITQUmsFLDNUlLsLzaUgzh_M2DTrRpvu4tUd6B97mfkSYkvU0GEg1538t_XFsQZSWnka2_iaLuGKc1b0vFrNCkZ8QDfQHjSg_19czMRFHd24KAcHNJ_PFg08pQo11mxYHek/s1600/scan0001.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxTe6btxmIIITQUmsFLDNUlLsLzaUgzh_M2DTrRpvu4tUd6B97mfkSYkvU0GEg1538t_XFsQZSWnka2_iaLuGKc1b0vFrNCkZ8QDfQHjSg_19czMRFHd24KAcHNJ_PFg08pQo11mxYHek/s200/scan0001.jpg" width="146" /></a>PS: Ganesh's seat in one of the oldest schools have been confirmed and I am proud to announce that we are lucky to have our "self-written" application being considered for our "interview" for his admission.</div></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: left;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-44574415703734175992010-10-13T04:31:00.000-07:002010-10-13T04:31:21.255-07:00Tagged... finally<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Huurraaay... I have been tagged. :) </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I have been thinking of tagging myself of late, but then the feel of somebody tagging me is amazing. Thanks <a href="http://chitra-aiyer.com/">sis</a> for this.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">1.Tag seven people</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">2.Link their pages in your tag post</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">3.Leave a comment in their comments section telling them they’ve been tagged</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">4.In your post, mention the person who tagged you and link her page</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">5.Write 7 things about yourself.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">My first post was a detailed introduction about myself, and yes, coming up with a whole new list is definitely not easy, but then, as they say, who doesn't love to talk about themselves? Also, I cannot avoid being repetitive as a couple of things really so part of me to avoid. Here it goes:</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I. If growing up is what is being considered as per age, I would say I felt like a free spirited teenager myself until a couple of years back. I am growing up now after child birth. Having said that, I am not sure, if motherhood is the cause of this feeling or its just a co-incidence.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">II. Foodie - This describes me. As long as its vegetarian (Indian definition), I am in. I would rather go hungry than eating aweful food.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">III. I love to go for a walk with my child. Even when its raining we take an umbrella and out-we-go. This is how my day has to begin, working day or not. We enjoy the freshness in air, flowers, dew drops and just a walk together. We come back all cheerful and have a hearty breakfast together. Makes my day.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">IV. I would love to meet another confused soul who can match my levels of confusion. I need to think so much for days or months together to arrive at a conclusion, but then once decided, there is no looking back or repenting if things don't work as expected.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">V. Love is what keeps me going, balanced and sane. It gives me hope and purpose to my life.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">VI. Creativity makes complex things simple. I love watching movies, might own a canvas of artistic photograph or painting in near future. I want to make atleast one presentable BIG mural or glass painting or both in the course of my life.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">VII. Singing - I know I am besuri at it but still I want to re-learn Hindustani Classical formally. (Love thy neighbour(s)... evil grins)</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I would love to see what seasoned bloggers like <a href="http://arunima.blogspot.com/">Arunima</a>, <a href="http://sayesha.blogspot.com/">Sayesha</a>, <a href="http://orangeicecandy.blogspot.com/">Parul</a>, <a href="http://mamasaysso.blogspot.com/">Rohini</a>, <a href="http://www.chronicwriter.com/">Chris</a>, <a href="http://emaanchopra.blogspot.com/">Emaan</a> and <a href="http://iyer-ramya.blogspot.com/">Ramya</a> have to say about themselves.</span></div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-31845258773654317162010-08-13T06:24:00.000-07:002010-08-13T06:29:01.128-07:00Of Evil Eyes and suchPeople say that it exists, I do not believe in it. What I do believe is in the presence of divine, which is core of the very existence. To me, one form of that divine is love. And if somebody appreciates something, how can that be harmful? If that is the case, any child would be affected by mother's eyes all the time. And if somebody is jealous by nature, how can that jealousy be harmful to the subject? Its sad for the person as such for the feeling he or she unable to grow out of.<br />
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Ganesh's right hand was on the door pane, while he was switching on and off the kitchen light, when the door banged full-on on his middle and ring finger due to heavy wind, chopping off the top portions. My father-in-law was sitting right next to him. He was rushed to hospital and they did a surgery next day morning, taking skin from his bum and grafting it on the fingers. As nature has designed us to move-on, he did, immediately. He started playing the evening it happened and played the next day after he got up from the anaesthesia effect. It is unimaginable to even describe. Bruises, wounds, cuts, head bumps, all adorn the body of a child, but this is way too much for a 22 month old. <br />
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After a re-dressing (with anasthesia) this week, his dressing was removed completely today. My heart cries every moment. Everybody around seems to have come to terms with it, I am yet to. Not sure, if I ever will.<br />
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He was on a sling for a week, cooperating with us while putting it and tying up the string to it so that his arm is lifted up while he sleeps. He is kind of a child who would play in water all the time. He did not go near it even if he had the chance, because he was told not to.<br />
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Friends, bless him for his wellness, for I believe, good wishes and love last forever.Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-54170891684007289782010-06-29T09:33:00.000-07:002010-06-29T09:33:14.156-07:00Happy Birthday My Darling Sister<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhH8-5UhPPj8X_hkkEHAOtVrxc6hm6E-EWyB53EU3kWHKxFTtlYr37arI_SdlUPMRKcYO83AROZOp3QhGGWvtHtBFplPXUaXlvkJlCxDRn6-foNoXaqKgR_VeqmOEy1huBDvAcbopAM1qM/s1600/scan0024.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" ru="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhH8-5UhPPj8X_hkkEHAOtVrxc6hm6E-EWyB53EU3kWHKxFTtlYr37arI_SdlUPMRKcYO83AROZOp3QhGGWvtHtBFplPXUaXlvkJlCxDRn6-foNoXaqKgR_VeqmOEy1huBDvAcbopAM1qM/s200/scan0024.jpg" width="127" /></a></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">I now very well know what I would have missed if you were not there in my life. I was longing for a small sister all my life and had even come to terms that I am not lucky enough to have that privilege, but then I had a dancing moment the moment I saw you, after spending thirteen years of my life alone, not having anybody to share the kind of bond that I have with you. You are not just my sister, but my daughter-cum-friend also, who gives hope to me and makes me smile at the very thought of her. My confidante, strength (weakness too). I wanted to flaunt you from the moment you came in my hands. My goodness, you were SO little. Forty days early, 1.8 Kgs, fragile and pink. Your earlobes were thin like onion peel and head circumference of a small doll. As a few days old baby, you would still have your waking up hours, stretching those tiny little arms and legs, looking inquisitively all around. Each of your milestones were celebrated with pictures and sweets. In that December-January Chandigarh near-zero-cold, you have crawled so much, running behind and away from us. Each day was a laughing riot at our home and neighborhood homes too. One of the best were your talking pre-school and early school years. Our cooked up genie stories. At 3, I must say, I was spell-bound by your imaginations and creativity.</div><br />
<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBVxd0FCIDXSuqFwyWr0Q9I8BDatpI3_NjMUJuOm0Zd7Ig_8QsQMrlnzmiDjCGsE3yos6v4ql5OZxjtEaClPWwksBAUa2IPvTUEkA62M6NEZ7fm1Kg04Vna1NPD1ZHdNLSvxiF0zIcsYY/s1600/scan0012.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="133" ru="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBVxd0FCIDXSuqFwyWr0Q9I8BDatpI3_NjMUJuOm0Zd7Ig_8QsQMrlnzmiDjCGsE3yos6v4ql5OZxjtEaClPWwksBAUa2IPvTUEkA62M6NEZ7fm1Kg04Vna1NPD1ZHdNLSvxiF0zIcsYY/s200/scan0012.jpg" width="200" /></a> </div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Anna didi (Anjana, a neighbor), meri didi hai kya yaha?</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Anjana: Nahi to</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: THHHAAAAAANNNNK GAAWWWDDDD! Mujhe do rupaye de do!</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Anjana: Kyu?</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Toffee</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">And as any other younger child in family, the different adoptive stories were told. And you were so innocent to accept each of the different versions also. As correctly said, <a href="http://iyer-ramya.blogspot.com/2008/10/happy-birthday-meenu.html">what goes around</a> comes around. </div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8q96mso6IZg_I9YV54dqpjqB5ZIjaC5KpMrTpXXKY3bY4eAyDZJjbbSVjyVpMeQXvxVD1tuFX6hx_OpDmaK9WIY1jIHIu1fAYI-vnNR1AJ5oPHEPFvGnXkKhyphenhyphenqv7wVsG1vJH7u0ucZ3g/s1600/scan0028.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="126" ru="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8q96mso6IZg_I9YV54dqpjqB5ZIjaC5KpMrTpXXKY3bY4eAyDZJjbbSVjyVpMeQXvxVD1tuFX6hx_OpDmaK9WIY1jIHIu1fAYI-vnNR1AJ5oPHEPFvGnXkKhyphenhyphenqv7wVsG1vJH7u0ucZ3g/s200/scan0028.jpg" width="200" /></a>Sometime in early 2008. </div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You (on phone): Meenu, what's your blood group?</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Me: B+</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Mera pata hai kya hai?</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Me: B+ hi hoga</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: O+. Papa ka bhi yehi hai.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Me: WOW. Sahi hai tu to universal donor hai. But tere ko dekh ke log bolenge, TU rehne de.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: hmm. Tujhe pata hai mummy ka kya hai?</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Me: B+</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">You: Nahi ji. A+. Mummmyyyyy, Meenu ko kaha se uthha ke laaye?</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjG5jSoLjYEp7CsvYz-HleG7jDqthqlQlMfJPgtkiWvNJ4BZXCCM7V_aTvLNcHf4tCikt63ZCHFqk7ZAyQpEfKM6nu0YWDJsrq9qAlrah_7t-LzjXXpV5dqSvtPfjNHxGqdFhIk0ueKoYU/s1600/MPL_LittleIndiaScienceCenter+067.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" ru="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjG5jSoLjYEp7CsvYz-HleG7jDqthqlQlMfJPgtkiWvNJ4BZXCCM7V_aTvLNcHf4tCikt63ZCHFqk7ZAyQpEfKM6nu0YWDJsrq9qAlrah_7t-LzjXXpV5dqSvtPfjNHxGqdFhIk0ueKoYU/s200/MPL_LittleIndiaScienceCenter+067.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">With each bullying, leg pulling, making each other jealous our bond has matured from good to better :). Your growing up years have been the best of my life as well. A tiny honey bunch that you are, a sport for all <a href="http://iyer-ramya.blogspot.com/2009/08/chance-pe-dance.html">silly things we do and talk</a>, small little gestures of belonging, sharing all possible feelings, laughing on anything and everything,<a href="http://iyer-ramya.blogspot.com/2009/05/red-cross-nautanki.html"> cat fights</a> , tantrums, property disputes including the aangan for kolams, amma-appa attention grabbing and their funny expressions and situations, fights for the sofa for best TV viewing and remote, I have fondly enjoyed all of them and deeply cherish them. </div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqG8yE7zWQTYD26-k5YRLePcDaXIywsAvcXx8kAqNDWhma-QzjH8X5ZbBAPZgE86Pxa-_TsJwudflQexrn6J5yFibtd1OTozhoyrFNHyqoMSnQuwPma_B3fs3e1XqTA7J4SzIDF3Axx_Q/s1600/Picture+007.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" ru="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqG8yE7zWQTYD26-k5YRLePcDaXIywsAvcXx8kAqNDWhma-QzjH8X5ZbBAPZgE86Pxa-_TsJwudflQexrn6J5yFibtd1OTozhoyrFNHyqoMSnQuwPma_B3fs3e1XqTA7J4SzIDF3Axx_Q/s200/Picture+007.jpg" width="150" /></a>It is hard to believe that a baby who was not even the size of our arms has grown from a tantrum throwing sweetest toddler, cute child into a graceful, beautiful teenager now, who is confident, creative, fashionista, knows what she wants out of life, ambitious yet so mature and growing up to be a grounded young woman. I am so proud of you my dear. May your hard work leads to success that you deserve and I wish for contentment and peace in your heart. I love you.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div>Meenakshyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521891348164932830noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154652459088003893.post-84701275429308360942010-06-17T02:21:00.000-07:002010-06-17T02:23:15.515-07:00Parenting: My approach I asked a psycologist friend of mine, if there are any books on parenting which provide effective tips on positive parenting. She said, "If there was any such formula, wouldn't we be all in Utopia?" "Wonderful point of view", I said. She continued, "Each family is different, individual approaches are different and, there is nothing right or wrong in this topic. Loads of love, not just sealed in heart, it should be expressed liberally throughout their lives. It works with everybody you know. Isn't it? My personal tip for you is to list down the things that you would want out of your child when he grows up. Ensure that the list does NOT contain his professional aspirations which are very personal to him. And start leading that life yourself, he will learn all of it by following your example." <br />
<div> "Start leading that life yourself" I realize is so important. Its so easy, because all of it comes naturally out of love, yet involves so much of thoughts and you end up in reacting the right way most of the times, in the times of stress or crisis. In case you don't, which too is inevitable, "there is always a next time" thought which helps you deal with the guilt in a better way.</div><div> My list is not only expanding in intricacies of my own approach towards life, but also making me stop, think and enjoy each moment of it. Each stage is awesome and we tap on the most receptive moment of Ganesh and whatever he has learnt till now has been completely fun-filled and ofcourse, self-learning (sometimes the hard way, eg. you will slip and fall if you run on watery floor. Its so amusing to see him walking on the dry patches on wet floor of the veranda after rains). </div>I very strongly believe that life teaches and we as parents or teachers are just facilitators. As Kahlil Gibran says,<br />
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<div></div><div></div><div></div><em>Your children are not your children.</em><br />
<em>They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.</em><br />
<em>They come through you but not from you,</em><br />
<em>And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.</em><br />
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<div></div><div></div><div></div><em>You may give them your love but not your thoughts, </em><br />
<em>For they have their own thoughts.</em><br />
<em>You may house their bodies but not their souls,</em><br />
<em>For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,</em><br />
<em>which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.</em><br />
<em>You may strive to be like them, </em><br />
<em>but seek not to make them like you.</em><br />
<em>For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.</em><br />
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<div></div><div></div><em></em><em></em><em>You are the bows from which your children</em><br />
<div></div></em><em>as living arrows are sent forth.</em><br />
<em>The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, </em><br />
<em>and He bends you with His might </em><br />
<em>that His arrows may go swift and far.</em><br />
<em>Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;</em><br />
<em>For even as He loves the arrow that flies, </em><br />
<em>so He loves also the bow that is stable.</em><br />
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<div></div><div></div><div></div>I wish Ganesh gets what I wish to have for myself too. Here goes the list:<br />
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<div></div><ul><li>1. There is no hurry, things come and go at their own pace, just live the moment. Equally, its important to start doing things early and not in the nth moment to avoid being late. Despite of that if you are, it is OK, certain things are not in our hands. </li>
<li>2. Aspirations and ambitions are for YOURSELF and not to prove or show off to the world. Challenge and compete with yourself, following others' examples is also extremely important. Having said that, life is not just about yourself or your family. You must have your social responsibilities clear. Be compassionate and empathatic. Only that gives immense satisfaction and hope for your life ahead. </li>
<li>3. Sports, puzzles, quizzes are extremely creative. They are a MUST.</li>
<li>4. Reading. The more words and strings of words you come across, you not only get ideas to express yourself much better but also get to see different perspectives which leads to have a better outlook towards life. And that my son, will pave path for you to be a better human being.</li>
<li>5. I want you to be a traveller and not a tourist. Feel and live in that place however short the trip is; unlike a tourist, enjoy local food, feel the difference of aroma in air and taste of water, be a part of the place and that includes paying tax for the country wherever you live. Remember, the way of lives may be different, and languages may be different, at the end of it, everybody goes through the same set of emotions. Appreciate all of it. </li>
<li>6. Express your gratitude to the Supreme for what you have. Build a relationship with Him, formal or informal. </li>
<li>7. Enjoy what nature has it for you. The resources are for your use and not misuse. Always take time to feel and enjoy the breeze, rains and fragrance of the flowers. And remember, heat and cold bring in their own kind of beauty to surroundings. Do your part to conserve the precious ecosystem.</li>
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